So, because narcissists never measured up, they created the false self, the awesome person. The one you meet at the beginning of the relationship. They will be the hero, but never the villain. To be seen as anything but good is not acceptable in a narcissist’s eyes, so they do whatever they can to make others believe that they are the victim and the good one, and the partner is the abuser and the bad one. Apparently this is what the DOE wanted and he has as much right to be there as the two of them but the DOE was aware of the nasty situation that H caused and still have his faculties until the last week before his death. I just hope that H realises how much pain he caused the DOE aim the last.
According to your other Quora activity, you recently relocated from California to Texas. Both California and Texas are community property states, which means that any property acquired with marital assets belongs to both of you equally, regardless of how it is titled. Frankly, I’m far more concerned about your statement that your husband insisted on placing the house solely in his name over your objection than I am about anything else you said. What’s his motive?