The most ethical thing to do is tell him and then sever all—and I mean all—ties with him. Do not ask if “we can just be friends.” The only excuse for delay would be if he’s in school and has midterms tomorrow, or something like that. Don’t string him along. Oh, and don’t actually tell him you don’t care. Just say you’re ending the relationship. You are not obligated to say any more than that, and more would just be hurtful and not understood. Break off all. Unfriend on Facebook, change your phone number if you have to. Give him no hope. Hope clouds observation. Now if you aren’t in an exclusive relationship, which what I said pertains to, you can simple get busy and vague. Don’t answer or return calls/emails. “Sorry, I’m not in a position to talk right now.” If you’ve made no commitments you have no obligations. The problem is when you have the same circle of friends. As long as he’s civilized that’s his problem more than yours. Whatever your situation, just remember that the eyes of hope and desire lead to big misinterpretation of your behavior and words, so you need to make sure nothing you do can be interpreted as giving him hope. Depends on what your intention is. If you are interested in continuing the contact with all manipulative tactics for control, then you use a method called Grey Rock. This means you show no emotions to the Narsicisst when he lies to you, criticisizes, gives you words of praise and the ultimate silent treatment to punish you for not reacting. For no reaction is like cutting off a limb. They need a reaction for fuel to keep their marginal existence and maintain their life line. So, with that said, if you are not willing to endure this game of checkers, and you believe you deserve better due to the kind and empathic person you are, and want to end this and your own denial of true feelings, then you go No Contact. That means you block all lines of communication. If the Narsicisst cannot contact you he cannot obtain the fuel needed for survival, and he will need to find a new target of fresh supply. This is at very difficult thing to do if you have become trauma bonded. You will actually experience withdrawal sensations because you are without your drug. Get alot of support should you decide to go no contact and work a recovery program. I wish you the best, as I was married to a Narcissist for twenty seven years, and then dated one for a year. Different person, same behaviors. As empsths we need to do our inner work, heal our abandonment wounds, get on a program of self care to give back to self what the Narsicisst used, abused and sucked out of us!
The simplest definition, really, is that philosophy is this structured method that allows you to think about stuff. It involves asking the right questions and then examining these questions and ripping them apart. And then starting over and asking better questions. Nowadays, I guess, philosophy is to science what a really experienced consultant is to a really huge and successful conglomerate. It will offer an intelligent opinion on how the conglomerate ought to work its strategy but it doesn’t know (and is not really interested in) all the specifics. The consultant doesn’t answer, “What are the best trucks you can buy to transport your product?”. Instead, it says things like, “There doesn’t seem to be a great market in this product. Go elsewhere.” or “How about this new way of looking at markets instead of your current ways? Maybe that will help. It seems reasonable.” The problem philosophy has sometimes is that it can ignore the possible practical gains of a theory if it doesn’t withstand enough scrutiny. So in our analogy: Picture this new way of looking at market brings enormous profits to the company. And the consultant could still go: “Nah. I don’t like it. It’s not coherent with my definition of X which would lead to a contradiction with my other definition of Y…” where X and Y are things the conglomerate does not really care about. That happens quite frequently and it’s good for the evolution of philosophy itself and, by implication, that of science too I think. The computational theory of mind (widely accepted by psychologists/cognitive scientists) is an example of a theory that came out of the philosophy department and found a direct application into real life.